This was well written. I guess the thing a poly newbie should keep in mind that being poly really isn’t all that different from being monogamous; you can have a lot of the same problems and issues but multiplied. And it’s not an easy concept to grasp because, as I learned (the hard way) that you have to unlearn a lot of stuff so you can learn more new stuff about love, sex, and relationships. If you’re not a good communicator, well, learn quickly; if you don’t have very good problem solving and conflict resolution skills, time to cram like never before because you will need these big time. And just like in a monogamous relationship, if you’re not willing to put in the work necessary for your poly relationships to grow and flourish, well, guess what’s gonna happen?
[…] myself to explore my edges, I had forgotten how to relax, and just be with my self. My inner perfect poly person had grown adept at suppressing my shadow emotions in relationships, and my mind was at conflict […]
[…] you. And, when that happens it will suck, and you may well find yourself wrestling with your inner Perfect Poly Person and try to force yourself to like them. You might have metamours who end up (directly or […]
[…] you. And, when that happens it will suck, and you may well find yourself wrestling with your inner Perfect Poly Person and try to force yourself to like them. You might have metamours who end up (directly or […]
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[…] Or, they might experience joy paired with jealousy, envy, or feelings of insecurity. Our inner “perfect poly person” might want us to have insta-compersion for what our partners are doing with others, but it is […]
Polysingleish 
well written. So, surprise, poly relationships have the same problems and mono ones do.
Thank you. This is a powerful piece of writing!
This was well written. I guess the thing a poly newbie should keep in mind that being poly really isn’t all that different from being monogamous; you can have a lot of the same problems and issues but multiplied. And it’s not an easy concept to grasp because, as I learned (the hard way) that you have to unlearn a lot of stuff so you can learn more new stuff about love, sex, and relationships. If you’re not a good communicator, well, learn quickly; if you don’t have very good problem solving and conflict resolution skills, time to cram like never before because you will need these big time. And just like in a monogamous relationship, if you’re not willing to put in the work necessary for your poly relationships to grow and flourish, well, guess what’s gonna happen?
I am grateful for this post. Thanks
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[…] myself to explore my edges, I had forgotten how to relax, and just be with my self. My inner perfect poly person had grown adept at suppressing my shadow emotions in relationships, and my mind was at conflict […]
[…] you. And, when that happens it will suck, and you may well find yourself wrestling with your inner Perfect Poly Person and try to force yourself to like them. You might have metamours who end up (directly or […]
[…] you. And, when that happens it will suck, and you may well find yourself wrestling with your inner Perfect Poly Person and try to force yourself to like them. You might have metamours who end up (directly or […]
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