Singleish: Adventures in a Polyamarous Lovestyle

Singleish: [noun]

i) describing a non-monogamous attitude towards intimate relationships where an individual, not in any form of primary, committed intimate or romantic relationship, wishes to experience dating or seeing multiple people at the same time, with no expectation of long term commitments, such as a Relationship Escalator trajectory. Such an individual is differentiated from being a ‘player’ through the honesty and integrity they bring to their dating approach, without concealing any of the relationships from the other people they are seeing.

ii) the relationship status of an individual who is dating several people casually, yet is open to dating more.

iii) a style of both Solo Polyamory and Relationship Anarchy.


One day, I decided that it was time to introduce a new word to the polyamarous lexicon.

For a while I have struggled to describe my attitude and approach to polyamory. I didn’t mesh with the couple centric, polynormative majority that I kept encountering again and again. I decided to find my own approach to ethical non-monogamy. At last, I had the eureka moment I had been yearning, and in the gift of that moment is an intriguing sense of freedom and liberation.

My name is Mel, aka “Polly Singleish”. I’m  30-something, queer, singleish, and I live in Canada.

This blog was created to chronicle my adventures in an ethical, non-monogamous, and anarchic love-style. Please check out the other sections of the blog, and the links on the side.

Enjoy 🙂


8 thoughts on “Singleish: Adventures in a Polyamarous Lovestyle

  1. Thx for starting this terrific blog, M. Looking forward to reading your insights!

    I like what you’re saying here about being “singleish”. As a self-described bi-poly married woman not currently dating, I often say that I’m ‘celibate-poly,’ meaning I see myself as polyamorous, but currently only having one partner.

    Definitions are interesting, aren’t they? They help us frame our experiences but can also box us in when we’re not careful. What I like about polyamory is the freedom to choose and to explore within our own parameters.

    I hope your definition catches on!

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